I have been thinking of what I could say on this blog to explain my reasoning for homeschooling my kids. So, I took some time to gather my thoughts and to write out and think about my reasons.
First, as some of you know, I dealt with my daughter’s behavior issues in Las Cruces before I moved. The first part of the year seemed to go smoothly. Then, around Halloween, things changed and I began to get several calls from the school. It started in small increments. I would get a call about her not following directions. I would talk to her and she would have a few good days.
That moved to the school bus and her suspension for behaviors resulting in me having to drive her to and from school. The first time it was for one day. The second time, it was for three days. Her behavior was benign to me, but they had merit and I was unable to deter their determination. For example, she shoved her brother over on the seat (I see this as a small thing) and was suspended from the bus for a day. The second time, she kicked her brother (this I could see being an issue) and threw her bag on the ground.
Needless to say these behaviors escalated after Christmas and got increasingly worse as time went on. I received messages from the teacher, the counselor, the social worker, and eventually the principal. I went in for meetings, sat in her classroom to “observe”, and suggested ways that they could work with her at school. They mentioned putting a behavior plan in place, but wanted to give her a chance.
As a frustrated parent, I wanted to blame the school (I don’t blame them, but I do think they handled it poorly), and I ended up withdrawing her from school 2 weeks before the end of the year. Why? Because I was graduating and I was being called 3 times a week to come and pick up my daughter from school. I asked myself, “Why is she only misbehaving at school?” Surely, there had to be a reason her behavior was harsh.
Well, I never found out. I withdrew her from school and she stayed with my mom for the remainder of the year.
Second, my son Damian is on the Autism spectrum and struggled his kindergarten year due to being placed in a split classroom. This is where half the kids were in Kinder and half the kids were in first grade. His teacher was not well equipped to handle a child with his needs. So, he struggled despite my helping him at home.
His first grade teacher, was a different story. She worked well with Damian and happened to be his SPED teacher during his kinder year. So, she’d already established a rapport with him and knew his learning style. Even though, he struggled, he did better with her than the previous year.
He still struggles and he is still behind. His teacher did amazing but she also has a classroom full of other kids to focus on. Which brings me to that list I was talking about. The reasons I chose to home school them.
Let me say this, I’m new to homeschooling and know that I’m diving into the deep end of the pool. I’m taking on a big risk and sacrificing a lot of time and energy doing this. But, I know it will be worth it.
So, this brings me to my reasons.
My reasons for homeschooling and why
- Arielle’s behaviors.
After sitting back and looking at my daughter’s behaviors, I discovered a few things. First, she was picking up on the tension in the household. Second, I went from devoting all of my time with her to working and going to school full time. Third, she knew that my (soon to be ex) husband and I were getting a divorce. I won’t go into detail but there was stress and other things that resulted in some of her behaviors.
After moving, I enrolled her into therapy and she is getting the help that she needs. It is helping me and her to know that life throws you curve balls and we have to figure out how to deal with them.
- Damian being behind
I have seen the struggles that Damian has dealt with and am arming myself with the challenge of getting him up-to-date. I have been looking up curriculum, exercises, activities, and unit studies to keep his interest and propel him forward. I know with some TLC and one-on-one attention, he will catch up.
Sadly, in this day and age there are school shootings, reports of child and sex abuse from school officials, and many things under this umbrella. I know that I live in a rural area and some may think nothing happens here, but you’d be wrong. It can happen to anyone. So, this gives me peace of mind to know the kids are with me and I don’t have to worry about this stuff. (It may be overboard, but it is a cause for concern).
Kids these days learn from other kids. Parents have the right to teach their kids what they want (I don’t judge what parents want to expose their kids to). However, I feel that my kids have learned things far from their age range from shows, videos, games, and other forms from kids at school. Damian and Arielle both have imaginations and I want to hold onto their innocence and childhood for as long as I can. I am still going to be upfront and honest about the world we live in. I just don’t want early sexualization, violence, or harsh language to be surrounding them. They will hear it enough when they get older, I can at least minimize what it is now.
- Time together
I feel the best reason is to spend these years with my kids. I want to mold their minds and learn from them. The best thing is to spend time with them and enjoy learning together. It will be the best thing for us to solidify our bond and to grow as a family. Especially now that it’s just the 3 of us.
These are my reasons right now and there are more that are a little more personal (I choose not to mention). It is a new journey and I’m learning as I go. I just finished my year-at-a-glance. I know what the kids will be learning and I’m psyched to get started.
We have just over a week before we start school. I’m in the throws of getting organized. I will be using Evernote (Note taking App) to organize and keep records of the kids progress. I’m also using Time4Learning (online curriculum) for some portions of their lessons.
It is a lot of work but when we get started, it’ll be a matter of getting in a routine set in place. I will be keeping you up to date on our journey through our Instagram account.
We named our school Little Lola Academy after our hamster that died last week. (The kids wanted to honor her.) So, you can give us a follow on Instagram @littlelolaacademy to follow along on our journey. I will be sharing our curriculum, the kids progress, unit study materials, field trips, and more.
Looking forward to a great year.